I’m not sure about anybody else, but lately I’ve been feeling like I’m in complete limbo when it comes to what the actual hell I am doing with my life.
I have friends building houses, buying houses, friends getting engaged, having babies and friends already in their full time dream jobs.
Then there’s me: working 9-5 in a job that isn’t exactly what I want to be doing for the rest of my life, attempting to save money for a house deposit, while simultaneously wanting to travel to every corner of the world.
10 year ago, I had set myself a life plan.
Married, house and a baby on the way by 25, because 25 seemed like such a ‘have your shit together’ age, plus my mum was married at 21 and then had me at 23, so I just assumed it was an easy goal to strive for.
I’m two weeks out from turning 25 and cannot see myself married, having children or owning my own home in that short time frame (that would take some serious voodoo).
It is simply not at all fair to put so much pressure on myself to have my life together by 25, nor is it something that I necessarily want anymore; so why am I envious and comparing myself to friends and family?
Several mental breakdowns and some incredible pow-wows with my best gal pals later, I’m slowly starting to realise that it’s actually totally okay that my shit isn’t totally put together yet. It’s not as if I haven’t accomplished some pretty fab things in my 24 years thus far.
Here’s a few things I’ve learnt and continue to tell myself when I feel like I’m not doing as well as others around me – and if any of this resonates with you, the following words of wisdom may help relieve that pressure!
I’m still figuring out who I am
Trying to figure out who you want to be and where you want to be is one of the hardest feats that life throws at you. How are you supposed to know what you want to do if you don’t fail and get a few things wrong first? Rome wasn’t built in a day honey.
We’re actually having the time of our lives
I can almost bet my last dollar that while you are torturing yourself over your friends’ latest Instagram post announcing their pregnancy, they’re just as jealous of your banging Saturday night selfies and drunk AF Snapchat story. The FOMO goes both ways.
We’ve learnt how to stand on our own two feet
While you may be living in a dingy one bedroom unit, eating your mi goreng cup noodles and barely making enough money to pay your rent – you’re actually learning valuable life lessons. Being able to pay rent steadily, knowing when to budget for bills, but also having money and time to do things for yourself is only something you can learn when you have to be responsible for yourself – something that deserves recognition.
There’s more time for travel
Why are we even stressing? We’re literally only in our 20s, there’s so much the world has to offer: people to meet, places to see and lifelong friendships to make. It’s not like back in our parents’ day when travelling was almost not an option. Flights are getting cheaper, students get discounts and you’re just about guaranteed to have some life changing epiphany on a beautiful beach in Spain or at a winery in the French Riviera.
It may still be taking me time to accept that it’s okay I’m not weeks away from putting down a house deposit or having a baby but at least I know not all hope is lost and I’ll get there eventually.
It’ll just be when I’m ready and not because I feel the pressures of society.