I’m About to Turn 25 and My Life is Nowhere Near as Put Together as I Thought It Would Be

I’m not sure about anybody else, but lately I’ve been feeling like I’m in complete limbo when it comes to what the actual hell I am doing with my life.

I have friends building houses, buying houses, friends getting engaged, having babies and friends already in their full time dream jobs.

Then there’s me: working 9-5 in a job that isn’t exactly what I want to be doing for the rest of my life, attempting to save money for a house deposit, while simultaneously wanting to travel to every corner of the world.

10 year ago, I had set myself a life plan.

Married, house and a baby on the way by 25, because 25 seemed like such a ‘have your shit together’ age, plus my mum was married at 21 and then had me at 23, so I just assumed it was an easy goal to strive for.

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I’m two weeks out from turning 25 and cannot see myself married, having children or owning my own home in that short time frame (that would take some serious voodoo).

It is simply not at all fair to put so much pressure on myself to have my life together by 25, nor is it something that I necessarily want anymore; so why am I envious and comparing myself to friends and family?

Several mental breakdowns and some incredible pow-wows with my best gal pals later, I’m slowly starting to realise that it’s actually totally okay that my shit isn’t totally put together yet. It’s not as if I haven’t accomplished some pretty fab things in my 24 years thus far.

Here’s a few things I’ve learnt and continue to tell myself when I feel like I’m not doing as well as others around me – and if any of this resonates with you, the following words of wisdom may help relieve that pressure!

I’m still figuring out who I am
Trying to figure out who you want to be and where you want to be is one of the hardest feats that life throws at you. How are you supposed to know what you want to do if you don’t fail and get a few things wrong first? Rome wasn’t built in a day honey.

We’re actually having the time of our lives
I can almost bet my last dollar that while you are torturing yourself over your friends’ latest Instagram post announcing their pregnancy, they’re just as jealous of your banging Saturday night selfies and drunk AF Snapchat story. The FOMO goes both ways.

We’ve learnt how to stand on our own two feet
While you may be living in a dingy one bedroom unit, eating your mi goreng cup noodles and barely making enough money to pay your rent – you’re actually learning valuable life lessons. Being able to pay rent steadily, knowing when to budget for bills, but also having money and time to do things for yourself is only something you can learn when you have to be responsible for yourself – something that deserves recognition.

There’s more time for travel 
Why are we even stressing? We’re literally only in our 20s, there’s so much the world has to offer: people to meet, places to see and lifelong friendships to make. It’s not like back in our parents’ day when travelling was almost not an option. Flights are getting cheaper, students get discounts and you’re just about guaranteed to have some life changing epiphany on a beautiful beach in Spain or at a winery in the French Riviera.

It may still be taking me time to accept that it’s okay I’m not weeks away from putting down a house deposit or having a baby but at least I know not all hope is lost and I’ll get there eventually.

It’ll just be when I’m ready and not because I feel the pressures of society.

How to Break Out of That Slump and Get Your Shit Back Together

I don’t know about anybody else, but that post new years motivation to get my life together has slowly but surely been drained from my being and all I want to do is revert back to Netflix in bed EVER. DAMN. DAY.

Not just me? Didn’t think so!

Well why don’t we try break out of this slump together by trying some of the following ways to kick our asses back into gear.

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Acknowledge & accept the slump
One of the first steps in getting out of that slump is acknowledging you’re actually in one and figuring out how you got there in the first place.

Once you figure out why you’re feeling like a sloth, accept it , thank it for its time and tell it to kindly move the f*ck on because you’ve got shit to do.

Get inspired
What ever it is you want to achieve, even if it’s just to be more productive, find a muse.

For me, I get inspiration from others who have achieved what I want to achieve, or who are currently on the same creative journey and it’s nice to follow along and look up to them!

Set goals
Now it’s time to set some (attainable) goals.

It’s no use setting unrealistic goals like ‘earn one million dollars in the next month’ – that’s an exaggeration, but you get the point – because when you don’t achieve those goals you head right back down to slump town.

I find setting weekly goals that I can easily accomplish help keep me motivated to achieve bigger and better things down the track.

Mental strength
Out with the pessimism and in with the optimism!

You can’t sit there and dwell on all you have to do or everything you should have done, you need to focus on staying positive and increasing mental strength so that you can endure any bumps in the road.

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Practice what you preach
Now it’s time to put all of this positive thinking and goal setting to the test.

Start really small. The whole point is to just do something. Something that will make you feel better, so get out there and kick some goals!

Start right now.